The Toys That Will Spice Up Your Sex and the Ones That Won’t

Everyone wants to have hot, amazing sex, and a lot of the time, especially for women, plain old horizontal tango just isn’t going to cut it in the orgasm department. If you want to spice up the bedroom a little but, toys are a great way to go without getting too kinky with it. Here are some toys that are good for beginners, and the ones that you should probably avoid. You can also go the porn route, but you cannot trust scam websites so rely only on the best as seen here to get the absolute cream of the crop as part of your experience.


These toys will rock your world, and they’re easy to use for pretty much anyone, it doesn’t matter if you’re new to toys or an old hand, these are classics, and are fun for both people involved.

Vibrators: Foreplay and During

1-vibeBecause sex isn’t just about putting a penis into a vagina, vibrators can be a great way to warm a girl up before the ‘real’ sex gets started. Vibrators are easy to use and play with, and they’re guaranteed to get a great reaction from anyone using one. Pleasure your partner beforehand or during to get her really fired up, and then you can go for it. You can even watch her pleasure herself first and then really go for it, and prove that you are better than that battery operated boyfriend any day.

Vibrating Shaft Rings

Just stick it on a penis, press go and let the vibrations happen. These rings go on the shaft of the penis and pleasure her clit while the penis is inserted, doubling the pleasure. They are simple and straightforward to use, and can really make your sex exciting, especially when you get the thrust rhythm down with those vibrations really going.

Massage Oils and Lube

3-Massage_Oil_p_39Oh yes. While not actually toys, things like oils and lube feel awesome, whether it’s on your body or on your genitals. Once again, sex isn’t just about inserting your penis into her vagina, it’s about pleasure. Use your hands to pleasure her on the inside, warm her up beforehand. Your sex will be crazy good afterwards.


These toys are just not going to cut it for a variety of reasons, either dangerous for those involved or just awkward to use for couples. Here are a few toys to just avoid, especially if you are new to the game of augmenting your sexual experience.

Metal Cock Rings

2-927726065939878211Do not put a metal ring around a penis that is expending, period. They don’t have enough give and could really end up damaging the penis if used incorrectly or if the size is just a bit off. So save your junk and avoid the use of metal cock rings, because they are quite dangerous.

Non-Vibrating Dildos

While things like beads and other non-vibrating tools can be used to great effect, they can be tricky for first time users. Instead of fumbling around with something that may or may not work, just hedge your bets and go with a simple vibrator. Once you get more practice, feel free to start advancing to the more complicated toys.

Makeshift Toys

NEVER use any toy that is not specifically designed for sex. It is unsanitary, unsafe and can get you into places that you would rather not be. Make sure that any toy you use is clean and safe for you both to use, and avoid horrible infections or injuries that could result from using a dangerous toy.


If something feels uncomfortable for you when you start to or think about using it, you should stop immediately. Don’t push yourself into using anything you aren’t ready for, and don’t torture your body with something that is difficult for you to use. Just keep calm and have fun with it, no pressure. It’s about pleasure, and being nervous or uncomfortable will not make it any better for you. So have fun, be safe, and don’t be afraid to experiment.

Using Roleplay to Get Closer to Your Partner

When you have been in a relationship for some time, it can start to get a little bit stale between the two of you. In fact, it can start to become downright impossible to actually find anything to do together that does not feel like you are rehashing things you have done about a million times already. There is only so much that you can do in a relationship before it starts to get repetitive and boring, which is not the sort of thing you want to realize when you are trying to start a life with someone you really care about. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to make your romance more interesting and get closer with your partner in the process. One such thing is roleplaying. Roleplaying is simply exactly what it says – you and your partner each take on the role of a made up character and then play out situations between them. There are a ton of different ways that roleplaying can help bring you and your partner closer together. Here are just a few of the many ways that it can help your relationship out.


Get Closer Emotionally
Get Closer Emotionally
The very first way that roleplaying can bring you and your partner closer together is emotionally. By taking on the personas of different people, you will grow to recognize and appreciate your partner all the more, making your emotions fall in line with each other. In fact, roleplaying can help you to fall in love with someone you have been together with for a long time even more than you thought you could. It is a great way to see different aspects of your partner and allow certain parts of yourself out as well, which will only bring you together emotionally so much more than anything else you may have done before.


In much the same vein, roleplaying can bring you and your partner closer together mentally as well, mostly because it will allow you to explore different parts of each other’s mental standings and see where you fall on all sorts of different issues. While you may not be acting like yourselves while you are roleplaying, parts of yourself will still shine through and that is what your partner is going to pick up on the most. Roleplaying will give you each the free reign to prod at each others minds and see what lies deep down in there and where you both stand on different issues. Breaking character in order to talk about issues that your characters feel deeply about is a really great way to spark intelligent debates with your partner, bringing the both of you closer mentally and making it that much easier for you both to see what sort of intelligence you each have underneath your pretty faces.


Get Closer to Your Partner
Get Closer to Your Partner
Yet another way roleplaying can bring you and your partner closer together is physically. You will be able to touch each other and be in each other’s space in ways that you might never have been before. You can see what it looks like to view your partner through another’s eyes and they will see the same in you, making the attraction between you grow even more deeply. Roleplaying is a really great way to spark physical attraction to its height because it lets you see and interact with different facets of your partner, which is enticing and thrilling for everyone involved.


Reignite The Fire
Reignite The Fire
Of course, the biggest way that roleplaying can bring you and your partner closer together is sexually. There are plenty of opportunities for sexual exploration when it comes to roleplaying. For example, you can play out scenarios that neither of you would be comfortable with in an unsafe environment, but you both find very appealing in a completely consenting situation. You might even be able to see different kinks that you both have that neither of you thought the other would share. There are so many ways to grow sexually closer with your partner through roleplaying that there is literally no way to list all of the possibilities. All you need to do is take a chance and discuss things with your partner before you start your roleplaying. You will definitely appreciate the results, guaranteed.